Chasing Perfection: The Pin-Perfect Wedding

Pinterest, you beautiful, angel-faced dream crusher.

Hey there, readers. Hope you’re all doing well. I know I’ve been pretty bad about posting, but I’ve been pretty busy lately. In addition to looking at less than seven months until our wedding, we had our engagement pictures taken at the end of September. (They’re ah-maaaazing! Keep your eyes peeled for a post featuring a nice sample of pictures from our session and advice from our photographer!) The week before that, I accepted a position at a local community college, working in the area in which I interned during grad school. (Yay!)

At this point in our planning, I’m looking at all of the invitation and decoration inspiration I can find. I have a general idea of what I think would be nice (very soft, but not in an overly-feminine way, bold pops of color done tastefully, etc.), but I’ve noticed I’m guilty of something of which I’m sure about 95% of other Pinners who have “future wedding” boards are guilty.

Marriage is Not 50/50; Marriage is 90/10 — Both Ways

As long as they’re not building something from IKEA together, they should be ok.

“Marriage is not 50/50; marriage is 90/10, both ways.”

This was just one piece of advice we collected at Kara’s bridal shower. At each seat, one of the bridesmaids, Macy, set an index card and pen for guests to jot down their words of wisdom for the soon-to-be newlyweds. This piece of advice in particular stuck with me because it makes so much sense. For someone who has spent a good deal of time browsing Pinterest and other blogs for wedding ideas and advice, most of what I’ve seen is all about how wives should pray for their husbands. Okay. That’s great and all, but since when is it just one person’s job to support, encourage, and build up a marriage? It seems to me that there are two people involved in this commitment, and while I know that a majority of Pinterest users are women, I’m left to wonder where to find the other part of this equation.

“6 Rules a Guy MUST Follow When He Proposes!” Yeah Right, Because He Looks at Pinterest All Day.

Am I off-base here, or is this just a little much?

So, I may have taken a little artistic liberty with that screen grab from Pinterest, but it’s been bugging me ever since these “6 rules” first popped up on my boards. The caption states that there are “only” 6 rules the pinner requires from a guy when he inevitably proposes to her. Some of them make sense, but there are a couple that sound a bit demanding. Maybe I’m just a low-maintenance kinda gal, but I never made any demands of Brian when he proposed to me, nor gave him guidelines prior to it happening. I was just really happy he did it, and that was enough for me. Here is what Pinterest suggests he do…